My relationship status? Rock solid—I'm consistently single. As someone who's sensitive to sound, a combination of audio and toys can really hit the spot. I don’t feel any guilt about masturbation, and while I understand casual hookups, I prefer solo play for its safety, convenience, control, and satisfying experience.
I’ve heard other girls say things like, "Girls who masturbate are inappropriate" or "Frequent masturbation will make you loose and ruin your sexual experience with a partner." Honestly, that’s just nonsense. On a psychological level, I strongly encourage everyone to ignore the “slut-shaming” voices, whether they come from society or within. We need to accept that having desires is a normal part of being human—there’s no shame in it.
Physically, masturbation has helped me better understand my body and its needs. My sex drive often correlates with my menstrual cycle and stress levels, so by knowing my body’s patterns, I can manage those overwhelming feelings. Plus, it helps me recognize my emotions and any issues I might be dealing with.
Masturbation, in a word, is empowering. It feels good, both physically and emotionally. So, let’s address the common concern: Will using small toys during masturbation affect future sexual experiences with a partner? The short answer: No, your vagina won’t become loose, and it won't change your sexual experience with a partner.
Aside from fears of looseness, some worry that masturbation could reduce clitoral sensitivity. Again, the answer is no. Your pelvic floor muscles and other support structures maintain your vagina’s position and tightness. The vaginal walls themselves are elastic, meaning they can stretch and return to their original shape. This elasticity means that activities like sex, masturbation, or using tampons won’t make it loose.
The only things that can significantly cause vaginal looseness are aging and childbirth.
While it’s true that long-term or intense physical and psychological stimulation can raise your brain's excitement threshold temporarily, this is reversible. Masturbation won’t reduce clitoral sensitivity, so there's no reason to worry about it affecting your sex life with a partner.
Interestingly, when gathering feedback for this article, we found that it’s rarely women who worry about masturbation affecting their sex life. Instead, some men come forward with concerns like, "I can’t compete with a vibrator! My girlfriend’s so used to her toys, she thinks I’m inadequate—what should I do?"
If masturbation has any "downside," perhaps it’s just the perception from outside voices... and nothing more.
