I’m turning 30 this year. Over the years, I’ve gone on many dates, but I haven’t formed a formal relationship with any man. Perhaps I’m still waiting for Mr. Right to appear. I’ve engaged in some intimate experiences but never went all the way. Actually, I lost my virginity to myself using an adult toy—safe, clean, and no worries about pregnancy.
These days, I use adult toys to satisfy myself monthly, and I’m constantly exploring new ways to achieve intense orgasms. If I don’t meet the right person, I’ll probably continue like this. Honestly, I don’t feel like I need a man at all.
When I was younger, I worried about feeling shameful for using adult toys. But as I grew older, another worry crept in: what if suppressing my sexual desires was bad for my health? After educating myself on the basics of sexuality, I came to a realization—why does sex always have to involve a man? Isn't it just as satisfying to please myself?
Women’s Concern: Feeling Shame About Using Adult Toys? Is Suppressing Sexual Desire Harmful to the Body?
There’s no need to feel ashamed about natural desires. Properly managing them is actually beneficial for your body.
As for the shame surrounding adult toys, one of the stories we heard perfectly addresses this concern: "We are human, and sexual desire is part of being human. We need to accept that having desires is normal—there’s nothing to be ashamed of."
Sexual desire is a biological instinct. As we age and our bodies mature, our sex drive develops as well. It serves essential purposes: reproduction, pleasure, and maintaining our well-being.
Suppressing sexual desires for extended periods can have negative effects on both mental and physical health. As Sigmund Freud famously pointed out, "Excessive repression of libido can lead to neurosis or sexual dysfunction."
Regular and moderate sexual activity, on the other hand, can boost productivity, increase job satisfaction, and make people more engaged in their work. It also stimulates the release of endorphins, enhancing pain tolerance and alleviating headaches, joint pain, and other ailments.
Everyone’s needs are different. Some women have naturally low libidos and find that not masturbating or having sex doesn’t affect their lives. For other single women with sexual desires, using toys is a safe, hygienic, and enjoyable way to satisfy themselves. Ultimately, what’s most important is doing what feels right for you.
So, whether you choose to use adult toys or not, there’s no need to feel ashamed—listen to your body and prioritize your own comfort and well-being.
